For the woman who's done the work and still feels stuck.
Therapy and customized sessions for high-achieving women in CT and NY
You understand your patterns. You know why you people-please, overthink, and push yourself so hard. But knowing hasn't made it easier to stop. You still find yourself repeating the same patterns in your relationships — giving too much, second-guessing yourself, or struggling to ask for what you need.
“I know it. I just don’t feel it.”
If that’s a sentence you’ve said out loud, you’re in the right place.
You can understand exactly why you do what you do and still find yourself repeating the same patterns. Maybe you're the one who holds everything together, struggles to say no, or finds herself overthinking conversations long after they're over.
And perhaps the most frustrating part? You understand why you do these things, but knowing hasn't made them any easier to change.
At Instar Healing, I help accomplished women move beyond insight through EMDR, Brainspotting, and body-based therapy so they can begin to experience change they can feel, not just understand.
Built for high-achievers, leaders, and creatives
You've done therapy before and are ready to go deeper.
You're navigating a major life transition — burnout, loss, career changes, or shifting relationships.
You're successful on the outside, but feel disconnected or unfulfilled on the inside.
You're tired of strategies that help you manage symptoms, but don't change the underlying patterns.
You want a more experiential approach to therapy that helps you make meaningful changes and get back to living your life, but better.
More than talk.
Here’s what actually moves things.
Insight is important—but sometimes understanding the pattern isn't enough to change it.
The work here moves through the whole system: I teach you what stress and trauma are doing in your body, build regulation skills through yoga, breathwork, and somatics, use cognitive reframing to settle the nervous system, and then use Brainspotting and EMDR to work with what's still getting activated underneath.
1. Understand
The neuroscience of stress and trauma in your body and brain.
2. Regulate
Real nervous-system skills through yoga, breathwork, and somatics.
3. Reframe
Cognitive work to tone the nervous system and shift the patterns.
4. Clear
Brainspotting and EMDR to release what’s been stuck underneath.
Find the path that fits your life right now
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Breakthrough Intensives
Focused blocks of two hours to four hours, combining somatic, cognitive, and trauma-resolution work in one container. For the women who want to get in, do deep work on a particular issue, and get back to their busy lives.
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Therapy For Women
Ongoing weekly support for the high-achieving woman who wants steady, deeper work over time. Focused, time-conscious sessions you can do alone or alongside an intensive.
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Trauma Therapy
EMDR, Brainspotting, and integrative approaches to move what you’ve been carrying for too long, so you can move forward with clarity and ease. -
Anxiety & Stress Therapy
For the overthinkers, perfectionists, and high-functioning women who can’t turn their minds off. Interrupt the loop, settle the nervous system, finally breathe.
Specialties:
Investing in Yourself
You invest in your career, your family, your relationships, and the people who depend on you. But when it comes to your own emotional well-being, it's easy to put yourself at the bottom of the list.
Therapy isn't just another appointment on your calendar. It's dedicated time to understand what's keeping you stuck, change patterns that no longer serve you, and build a healthier relationship with yourself and the people who matter most.
Individual Psychotherapy
Standard Session (55 minutes): $250
Extended Session (90 minutes): $380
Instar Healing is a private-pay boutique practice, with Aetna insurance accepted for eligible clients. Out-of-network reimbursement may also be available depending on your plan.
Many clients choose private-pay, because working outside insurance means no diagnosis on file, no session caps, and the freedom to shape the work around what you actually need.
What Clients Are Saying
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"A sincere thank you for our incredibly impactful work together. You challenged me in ways I hadn't experienced before and thus REAL progress was made..."
—Anonymous Intensive client
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“It took me 52 years to finally find a therapist who gives me tools that are effective and I can feel change.”
— K.M.
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“You’re exactly what I need. You call me out on my BS.”
— E.S.
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“I’m more mindful of myself and my needs versus feeling like a hot mess and not being able to do something about it.”
— L.B.
Contributions & Publications:
Reading worth your time
Practical, nervous-system-informed writing for women who want depth, not platitudes.
Ready to get unstuck?
Start with a short consultation call. We’ll talk about what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and whether the work I do is the right fit. No pressure, just clarity.