When trying harder isn’t helping anymore.
Therapy and customized sessions for high-achieving women in CT and NY
You’re used to being capable. You work hard, find answers, and figure things out. You understand your patterns. You know that you people-please, overthink, and push yourself hard. But now, the planning and problem-solving that once helped you feel steady are leaving you exhausted. You want to feel more comfortable in your body, quieter in your mind, and more able to trust yourself.
“I know it. I just don’t feel it.”
If that’s a sentence you’ve said out loud, you’re in the right place.
Maybe you're the one who holds everything together, struggles to say no, or finds herself overthinking conversations long after they're over.
And perhaps the most frustrating part? You understand why you do these things, but knowing hasn't made them any easier to change.
Relief never seems to last.
Another book, another article, another podcast. Everyone has a different suggestion, and the more you take in, the less certain you feel.
You keep checking, planning, and anticipating what could go wrong. Accepting help feels difficult when you can’t stop overseeing the details. You’re working so hard to keep everything together, yet feeling increasingly drained, frustrated, and alone.
Now life has thrown you a major curveball and you recognize that something needs to change.
You deserve support figuring out what comes next.
At Instar Healing, I help accomplished women move beyond insight through EMDR, Brainspotting, and body-based therapy so they can begin to experience change they can feel, not just understand.
Support for women used to figuring things out
You’re exhausted by overthinking and second-guessing.
You’re navigating early motherhood, loss, burnout, shifting relationships, or another major transition.
You find it difficult to accept help or leave things unfinished.
You understand your patterns and want support changing them.
You want practical tools alongside space to feel, reflect, and be supported.
You're successful on the outside, but feel disconnected or unfulfilled on the inside.
You're tired of strategies that help you manage symptoms, but don't change the underlying patterns.
More than talk.
Make space for the unknown, the undefined, the unpredictable
Insight is important—but sometimes understanding the pattern isn't enough to change it.
I’m Jennifer Hoffman, LCSW. I help women work through anxiety, perfectionism, and the strain of trying to hold everything together.
Together, we’ll explore what happens when uncertainty sends you searching for something to fix or control. You can learn practical skills to settle your body, step out of exhausting thought loops, and make decisions with more self-trust.
Our work can include conversation, cognitive behavioral strategies, and body-based practices. When past experiences need attention, EMDR or Brainspotting may also be part of your care. We’ll choose approaches together based on your needs.
The aim is more flexibility and choice: accepting support, responding when plans change, and being present with the people you love—even without everything figured out.
1. Understand
The neuroscience of stress and trauma in your body and brain.
2. Regulate
Real nervous-system skills through yoga, breathwork, and somatics.
3. Reframe
Cognitive work to tone the nervous system and shift the patterns.
4. Clear
Brainspotting and EMDR to release what’s been stuck underneath.
Find the path that fits your life right now
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Breakthrough Intensives
Focused blocks of two hours to four hours, combining somatic, cognitive, and trauma-resolution work in one container. For the women who want to get in, do deep work on a particular issue, and get back to their busy lives.
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Therapy For Women
Ongoing support for women navigating anxiety, perfectionism, and life transitions, including early motherhood. Build practical skills, understand your patterns, and develop more trust in yourself.
My Approach:
Investing in Yourself
You invest in your career, your family, your relationships, and the people who depend on you. But when it comes to your own emotional well-being, it's easy to put yourself at the bottom of the list.
Therapy isn't just another appointment on your calendar. It's dedicated time to understand what's keeping you stuck, change patterns that no longer serve you, and build a healthier relationship with yourself and the people who matter most.
Individual Psychotherapy
Standard Session (55 minutes): $250
Extended Session (90 minutes): $380
Instar Healing is a private-pay boutique practice, with Aetna insurance accepted for eligible clients. Out-of-network reimbursement may also be available depending on your plan.
Many clients choose private-pay, because working outside insurance means no diagnosis on file, no session caps, and the freedom to shape the work around what you actually need.
What Clients Are Saying
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"A sincere thank you for our incredibly impactful work together. You challenged me in ways I hadn't experienced before and thus REAL progress was made..."
—Anonymous Intensive client
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“It took me 52 years to finally find a therapist who gives me tools that are effective and I can feel change.”
— K.M.
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“You’re exactly what I need. You call me out on my BS.”
— E.S.
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“I’m more mindful of myself and my needs versus feeling like a hot mess and not being able to do something about it.”
— L.B.
Contributions & Publications:
Reading worth your time
Practical, nervous-system-informed writing for women who want depth, not platitudes.
Ready to get unstuck?
Start with a short consultation call. We’ll talk about what’s going on, what you’ve tried, and whether the work I do is the right fit. No pressure, just clarity.