Mend your past. Manage your life. Master your relationships.

Anxiety & Trauma Therapy
for Professional Women in Farmington, CT

Healing is Possible. Peace is Within Reach.

We help high-functioning women navigate the impact of trauma, anxiety, and emotionally unsafe relationships (past or present)—so they can feel grounded, empowered, and free.

Whether you're carrying the invisible weight of past wounds or untangling from anxiety or patterns shaped by toxic relationships, you're not alone—and you're not too much.

Everyone sees you as strong and capable, but under the surface, you carry so much—stress, anxiety, old wounds that still linger in ways you can’t quite explain.

You hold everything together for everyone else, but inside, you feel stuck, overwhelmed, and unsure how to break free from the patterns that keep repeating.

You don’t have to figure it all out alone. With Instar Healing, there is a place where you can finally slow down, make sense of the past, and start healing in a way that lasts. It’s not about fixing yourself—you were never broken. It’s about understanding yourself, untangling the weight you’ve been carrying, and creating space for real peace.

If you’re ready to invest in your healing—not just for now, but for the future—you don’t have to do it alone. We’re here to help!

Start healing from trauma, anxiety, and burnout with a therapist who truly sees you.
📍 Serving Farmington, CT and all of New York via telehealth.

🌿 Let’s begin your healing.
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Find Your Path to Peace

You’re the strong one. But even strong women crack.

You’re the one who gets it done, shows up, keeps the peace, handles everything—and still lies awake worrying if you’re doing it all wrong.
You feel anxious, overwhelmed, and like you're constantly "on." And while everyone else leans on you, you're quietly falling apart.

You’ve lived through some stuff—maybe a chaotic childhood, toxic relationships, or emotional abuse. You’ve tried to shove it down, move on, stay busy. But it shows up anyway... in your relationships, your stress, your body.

At Instar Healing, we get it.

We help high-functioning, sensitive, over-it women break old survival patterns, heal relational trauma, and finally feel like themselves again. Our work is trauma-informed, somatic, and deeply human. It's not just talk—it’s transformation.

This doesn’t have to be your normal.

If you’re tired of white-knuckling your way through life, we’re here to help you soften, heal, and build something different.

📍 Therapy in Farmington, CT + virtual sessions across New York
✨ EMDR, IFS, somatic therapy, intensives + more

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We specialize in therapy for high-achieving, anxious women in Connecticut and New York—helping you break free from old coping strategies and build a life that feels safe, connected, and like your own. Our integrative, trauma-informed approach blends deep relational healing with practical skills so you can calm your nervous system and finally feel whole.

You don’t have to carry it all alone anymore.

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I know you're sick of living like this. You can't seem to be happy or enjoy any moments without worry or anxiety taking over. You constantly feel guilty and wish you didn't 'should' yourself all the time. You feel like if you let your guard down for one moment things will fall apart, and you have to do it all yourself, of course, because that's how it's always been. It all falls on you.

You probably have had some negative experiences in your life or a not-so-great childhood and even though you're constantly working to push that stuff aside, it still creeps in to your intimate relationships, or your family dynamics or your work. You're tired of feeling anxious or overwhelmed and you know your ways of coping aren't sustainable, but you're not quite sure what needs fixing or where to start.

Instar Healing is here to help, listen, and work as a team to get you feeling more at ease.

Our team of a trauma-informed therapists take a relational, affirming, and skills-based approach to treating anxious, professional women who are overworked, overwhelmed and over ‘it.’

Let us help you move past your past, find contentment, create more space for joy, and feel healthier and fulfilled. You’ll feel valued, especially by yourself, and the right partner or peace with the one you have will follow. Our integrative approach is designed for professional women like you—let's transform how you feel and how others experience you.

"When you say 'yes' to others, make sure you're not saying 'no' to yourself."

―Paulo Coelho

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We help professional women **mend** their past, learn to **manage** their daily life with efficiency and effectiveness, and **master** their relationships & their life.
It’s time to feel empowered.
Instar Healing offers an integrative approach to helping women like you finally ease that anxiety and guilt and resolve the traumas of the past once and for all. We understand the issues that arise from our own negative past experiences and traumas affecting our parenting and relationships. Ohhh, how we doubt ourselves, feel tremendous worry, and sometimes very alone.

"You're exaclty what I need...you call me out on my BS."

"Thank goodness you helped me get out of that relationship."

"...I am more mindful of myself and my needs versus feeling like a hot mess and not being able to do something about it..."

"You know so much and I always feel like you get me and really understand more than other therapists..."

"Before you I didn't stick with therapy very long...but we can laugh and not make it so intense which actually helps me process it and sit with it more. Seriously, it's really good for me...I appreciate you."

"I feel relaxed and comforted here...it's a safe place and I trust you and you are here for me..."

"I don't have as many emotional outbursts. You have given me many tools and insights and I like being able to come here and not be judged..."

"I will never go to another therapist. It's you or nothing..."

"You're exaclty what I need...you call me out on my BS." "Thank goodness you helped me get out of that relationship." "...I am more mindful of myself and my needs versus feeling like a hot mess and not being able to do something about it..." "You know so much and I always feel like you get me and really understand more than other therapists..." "Before you I didn't stick with therapy very long...but we can laugh and not make it so intense which actually helps me process it and sit with it more. Seriously, it's really good for me...I appreciate you." "I feel relaxed and comforted here...it's a safe place and I trust you and you are here for me..." "I don't have as many emotional outbursts. You have given me many tools and insights and I like being able to come here and not be judged..." "I will never go to another therapist. It's you or nothing..."

Heal Your Past, Release Anxiety and Reclaim Your Life

Are you a high-achieving woman feeling trapped by stress, self-doubt, and past wounds or trauma that keep resurfacing? You may appear accomplished and in control, but inside you’re carrying the weight of anxiety, perfectionism, and old pain. For many of my clients, past experiences or trauma impact their current relationships and leave them feeling unable to fully connect with the people who matter most. This internal pressure can turn into frustration, resentment, or a sense of loneliness, even when surrounded by loved ones and seemingly having it all.

“At the centre of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

— ~Lao Tzu

Healing means more than just managing stress—it’s about transforming the past so it no longer controls your present. Together, we’ll explore the roots of your struggles, process lingering trauma and pain, and create a path to healthier, more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others. We specialize in guiding professional women to break free from the internal narratives holding them back, so they can feel secure, connected, and fully alive in their relationships.

Imagine moving forward with genuine confidence, free from anxiety’s grip, and empowered to build meaningful, joyful connections. If you’re ready to let go of what no longer serves you and embrace a life of peace, fulfillment, and ease in your relationships, we’re here to help you on this journey. Let’s get started today.

We’ve got your back! Together, we'll create a protected, accepting space to let it all hang out. We will work collaboratively to navigate the complexities of things like parenting, balancing relationships and work, and look at developing better systems for organization and efficiency. We will also look to the past for the messaging and blocks that continue to limit us today.

At Instar Healing, we’ve got your back for Trauma & Anxiety Therapy in Farmington, CT

Woman with eyes closed leaning toward sky from a balcony — **Here are just some ways my clients have said they have healed during our work together:**
**reduced panic attacks**
**reduced anxiety or panic when driving**
**reduced vomiting**
**able to eat again**
**able to assert healthy boundaries with parents, partners or bosses**
**able to attend events where their perpetrator will be and not feel triggered**
**able to rest and relax**
**improved sleep**
**reduction in use of alcohol or weed**
**less reactivity**
**less anger**
**more patience**
**feeling more compassion for themselves**
**feeling calmer and more content**
**improved relationships**
**And the best data—their loved ones seeing the changes in them too!**

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Learn More About Me

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Hi, I'm Jenn

Licensed Clinical Social Worker (CT + NY) | Founder of Instar Healing

You don’t need another therapist who hands you a to-do list of “shoulds.”
You need someone who gets it—who knows that healing doesn’t happen in a straight line, and that showing up at all is already enough.

My approach is integrative and relational, blending trauma-informed therapy, parts work, ACT, EMDR, somatic practices, mindfulness, and coaching into something deeply human. It’s modern, research-backed, and designed to meet all of you: mind, body, and spirit.

We’ll work together to shift the old patterns, soften the inner pressure, and reconnect you with the strength that’s already in you—because healing isn’t about fixing what’s broken. It’s about remembering who you’ve always been.

📍 Serving clients online throughout Connecticut & New York.
(Due to licensing, therapy services are only available in CT and NY.)

My Services

Mend Your Past

Finally heal your childhood experiences and rewrite your narrative with self-compassion. Set yourself free and feel truly unburdened so you can fully inhabit your life.
Manage Yourself & Your Life

Learn evidence-based ways to manage your anxiety and stress. Find the coping strategies that work for you and the life hacks that help your daily life run smoothly.
Master Your Relationships

Step into a more grounded, embodied, confident you. See your relationships improve and find contentment within yourself.

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Does this sound like you...?

I work hard, but I sometimes feel like a fraud
I’m depleted, but keep pushing through
I keep searching for contentment, but never seem to find my joy. Anxiety and worry get the best of me.
I’m trying to be my best for my partner, family and friends, but I feel like I’m falling short
I beat myself up, because I strive for perfection and people-pleasing but only end up feeling guilt or resentment
There’s stuff in my past I try to ignore or stuff down, but it still pops up
You’re stuck.